Is it wrong that I hate my mother?
Ever since I was 10 my grandmother has been raising me, and as long as I can remember , my mom has been a pill poppin animal always choosing her pills over her kids.
I remember one time when I was 6 years old,I saw my mom having sex in the living room, I didn’t know what she was doing at the time, but she told me to go into my room, and later explained that it was just “medicine for her stomach” She said that her stomach was hurting really bad, and that helped her feel a lot better.
I just saw her a few days ago, and she had the audacity to tell me that i’m ungrateful for everything she’s done for me, and that I should respect her. Respect her for what? Bringing me into the world? because I didn’t ask for her to do that, and any person could make a baby, taking care of the kid is where they should recieve respect from.
She always talks about how “hard” her life is, and no one cares about her, when we’ve put her in rehab 6 times!!!!! One time she left me at the school to get high, I had to walk home after my dance recital, and it was in a very dangerous neighborhood. She tried giving me a crystal ball, thinking that would rekindle our damaged relationship, I threw the crytal ball to the ground, shattered it, and told her to leave my apartment (She sold my nephews playstation 3 for $ 50.00 to buy pills, and sold my plasma TV for $ 60.00) I worked so hard to buy those things, and it’s nothing to her but drug money. I want NOTHING to do with her, I HATE her.
& religious people, don’t come in here saying “You should respect her because the bible says so”, I’m not religious and I don’t beleive in all of that, so those rules don’t apply to me.
My mom doesn’t affect my life anymore because I don’t really worry about it too much,I don’t care about her, nor do I think about her, I’ve gotten over it, but some people keep telling me i’m wrong for cutting her out of my life!! Do you think it’s wrong??? I want nothing to do with this woman!
Also, i’ve always seen her with guys that beat her, and one time I called the police, got the guy arrested, and she held it against me and told me that i’m ruining her life!!!
She’s ALWAYS been in abusive relationships, and cries about it, but when people try to help her, we’re “ruining her life”
Wth, i don’t want her in my life!
I don’t really think about her! The only reason wh I posted this question is because some of my LOVED ones, and those who are dearest to me beleive that i’m too harsh on her, when I don’t want to deal with her AT ALL because of the problems she put me through and i’m not trying to go through that bullsh*t anymore!
I just wanted you all to know why I feel the way I do, but the concern is because of what some of my loved ones said, not because i’m constantly thinking about my mother.
Suggestion by Brian
Not at all…
Suggestion by fanofbatista
It is not wrong to see that she will never make your life better. You wrote an excellent statement and question. Look out for and love the people who look out for and love you back. Your mother, sorry to say, doesn’t deserve your love.
Suggestion by Cooper
No, your doing nothing wrong. Your mother makes choices on a daily basis that affect her life. It’s not your fault or anybody elses but her own. You’ve done the right thing by severing ties with a toxic person in your life. If you mom is going to change it will be by her hand an nobody elses.
Do you think Tax credits for homes will expire by end of the year?
Hello, I really didn’t know how to word my question, I know that the current tax credits such as buying HUDs and for first time home buyers will expire by the end of this year, what I am asking is after they expire, do you think they will be extended or some other type of plan will be offered to save money? I know that no one has a crystal ball, but I am wondering if in the current economy will there still be tax credits given.
I don’t think that I am ready to buy a home, especially the way the economy is I am not sure if I can always make the payments even though I have money saved up. My original plan was to continue saving for about 2 – 4 more years so that I could buy a house outright, but I would still get a loan but would feel more comfortable knowing that the worst case scenario I have more than enough money to pay for everything.
Suggestion by Watch IT!
They will expire at the end of the year.
Suggestion by Beverly S
As a mortgage lender we have no more knowledge than anyone else. I personally think they might extend it as long as the housing market remains poor- just to make it easier for people to buy up all the foreclosures. FHA in 2008 increased the lending limits-initially saying it was for 1 year only- but have extended it through 2009 now. Smart move on your part to be concerned.
Suggestion by golferwhoworks
they are set to expire. You are wise not to buy unprepared as you could be the next foreclosure. Do it right you will be happier in the long run
How to handle our daughters marine friendship as a parent so worried about her mental part in it?
Our daughter met this marine when she was 18. She is now 20 and he is 21. They fell fast for each other wanting to move in together,gave promise rings,got a dog,etc. Then he deployed to Iraq and seemed different when he came back. They lived together at our house before and for some time after. Friction started and they broke up. She is in college works and was coaching basketball. So much happened between that time and now. His drinking and spending hit him hard. They both did some dating but said to each other that they wanted each other because the other dates weren’t enough. So for now he has started coming back over again,takes her to movies,has dinner and will spend the night. Yet he says he is not wanting to have that boyfriend/girlfriend relationship for now. He says the breakup part is really hard and wants to see how this progresses. Part of me sees that because he comes from a messed up family life where he was moved from one family to another. I have been married for 30 years and we want our daughter to be happy. It’s hard to sit back and not say anything and let him come back into the house when say this weekend he was at Vegas at the Marine Ball and he hasn’t even contacted her once. Yeah I know when you get around the buddies that I am sure they are encouraging him to be single,drinking,smoking whatever,no worries that way. To be honest my husband and I like how this guy can be and we were very close to where we did a lot of trips together and he called us mom and dad. He owes us money as well and that has kind of stopped since he has gotten him self in dept and I hope that isn’t why he is coming over here so much. Free dinners,etc. He probably thinks she will always be there for him so…on the other hand she did tell him a short time ago that if the friendship wasn’t going anywhere than she was done with him. But he has a way of making her think otherwise. There is a good chance he could get out early next year or get deployed to Japan so that can be factors to. I just wish I had a crystal ball and knew what to say to help her out. I have heard so much about the Marines and how not to get involved because they will break your heart. He used to talk to us all the time about spending his life with her but now it’s just about work. He seems to be fine until he has to go to 29 Palms or somewhere and then he shuts down and starts worrying what she is doing while he is gone. She waited for him all that time while he was in Iraq. He sent her gifts every month and as we did him. It seems when he moved back into the barracks that he changed. Frankly this is making me crazy and has hurt my husband and I and now we find out that he asks her to buy Pep and Hookah to help him out with stressing at work. Shes a good kid and we are so worried about her health. She has gotten so thin and even passed out on us one time recently while out walking so yeah we are extremely worried about her and want to help in some way like kick his butt and tell him to get real…let her go and quit messing with her mind..yet we still have the ties…..yeah we were stupid to help him out and feel sorry for him with a dad overseas on his third marriage and only comes back once a month to avoid paying taxes. So go ahead all of you and tell me what would you do if you were in our shoes. No he isn’t hurting her physically, just seems like making commitments and staying with them is a weakness on his part. One day he is on the basketball team, another football. He never wanted her around other Marines..and I hear from time to time how he won’t talk to this Marine for some stupid reason…what is going on???maturity issue,head problems,control issues,what???
If it matters his Marine company were not on the front lines only guarding a bridge so not as severe as other troops..I know to keep out of her life but it’s hard when we see what is going on in our home..
Suggestion by Chad B
What is going on is that he is a marine and was in a war watching people he cares about die in front of him. You can’t be sitting in a sniper hole, blow someones head off and get patted on the back telling you “good job” and come home and be the same person, it just doesn’t work that way. He probably isn’t meaning to mess with her but is doing it unintentionally. I can go on and on why he is doing this but take it from me, it is him being in a war. It will take time, sometimes years, for him to go back to semi-normal, but he will never be the same person he used to be.
Besides that, your daughter is an adult and has to go through a relationship on her own. Stop trying to “figure it out” and realize that your opinion has no standing here because she has a right to chose her own mate in life. Just let it go and let her make a mistake or not on her own.
PS: I haven’t spoken to my family for years (3 years) because of their “opinion” on my wife. They haven’t even seen my youngest child ever. If you don’t want the same thing to happen, just be supportive instead of judgemental.
Thinking about opening an online shop for teenage girls?
I was thinking about opening an online shop where I would sell jewellery, accessories and maybe small amounts of clothing. I’m a 17 year old blogger and I guess you could say that the products I will sell would fit the indie/bohemian market. I would make prices affordable and I have a friend who can make an appealing website. Do you think that it is a worthwhile idea or too overdone?
Would you trust and buy from an online shop run by a teenage girl?
I’d appreciate any opinions
A few potential products:
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Suggestion by Henry
It sounds like an idea. Now write a business plan to prove that your idea is valid. Go to http://sba.gov/smallbusinessplanner/plan/writeabusinessplan/index.html or http://www.score.org/template_gallery.html for instructions on how to write a business plan and sample business plans.
Suggestion by kemperk
you may get mom or dad to start the company and “do whatever” but you may not do so alone while you are
otherwise, outstanding enthusiasm and intents
keep in mind, per 100 on line only businesses, only 1 earns a profit
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