Wonderful post, Bradley. I only have anecdotal experience watching people in abusive relationships, but the (verbal) abusers I've seen up close don't seem to want to change. The only recourse is separation. To protect themselves, communities have to reject and expel abusers, and it definitely starts with, “No, this behavior is not acceptable”. If individuals want to change from being abusive, terrific, but that's not something communities should necessarily hold out hope for.

I'm definitely going to seek out that book, William. Thank you for the reference.