I feel like my recommendation should be full on "do it!"... sadly the very reason it has become so hard to do it it is because few people are doing it.

The problems of self-hosting are an "economy of scale" problem too, paradoxically! The reason being, it's easy to push out those who self-host because they're a minority right now, and making self-hosting easier could happen, but it would require more people taking the effort to go through the problems so that solutions can be found.