http://www.patheos.com/blogs/slacktivist/2017/01/30/still-please-dont-suddenly-pretend-care-homeless-veterans-just-long-allows-oppose-helping-refugees-thats-hurting-veterans-refuge/ Fred Clark knocks it out of the park. 

“My point here is not to say that you’re a jerk. You are, in fact, behaving like a jerk — acting in jerk-like, dickish ways. And that, I’m afraid, makes you a jerk in training. It’s what you’re practicing for — practicing to become. And that habit will grow stronger until, one day, it may become almost impossible to break.”